When I first heard that Alvin Aragon went on air saying God “made” his wife resign from SexBomb, that “every woman” should submit to her husband, and that his trans stepdaughter and other LGBTQ+ people were headed for hell if they didn’t repent, it stopped being celebrity chatter for me.

I don’t usually talk about anything related to show business, and the last time I remember caring this much about a showbiz story was back when That’s Entertainment was still on and my favorite love team broke up. I realized there is a need to address this now, even if it’s not a political scandal, because it cuts straight into one of my advocacies: equality, women’s rights, and basic fairness in our homes.

I was, and still am, hesitant to write about it. As a husband and a father, I have my own imperfections and failures. I’ve made mistakes in my marriage. I’ve fallen short of the kind of partner I want to be. Part of that hesitation also comes from what the Bible itself says: “Let the one who is without sin be the first to throw a stone.” I am not that person. Just the same, this story unsettles me so deeply. It shows a pattern of control and entitlement that many of us men, including me, have to unlearn.

THE ALVIN ARAGON HYPOCRISY: WHEN FAITH BECOMES A WEAPON AND WOMEN PAY THE PRICE

As I’ve mentioned, celebrity drama doesn't usually end up on this blog. Most days, it’s corruption, budgets, and power games. But the Alvin Aragon issue crossed my feed, then crossed our dinner table conversation, and it refused to leave my head.

This controversy is not confined to Alvin Aragon, Izzy Trazona, or SexBomb, but speaks to the kind of husband some men believe God wants them to be, and the kind of husband too many women are forced to live with. I’m not writing this from a pedestal. I’m writing this as a man who has also failed, trying to name behaviors that are hurting women in the name of faith.

WHO IS ALVIN ARAGON AND HOW DID WE GET HERE?

Alvin Aragon was born on October 28, 1989, in San Juan De Dios and grew up in Tramo, Pasay. His mother died of ovarian cancer when he was five, his father passed away a few years later, and he was raised by his maternal grandmother from around age 10 to 14. At 14, he joined GMA-7’s first StarStruck in 2003, became the youngest in the Final 14, and was the first to be eliminated, later appearing in shows like Kilig… Pintig… Yanig…, Ilumina, and The Good Daughter without ever really breaking out.

In 2012, he married former SexBomb Girls member Izzy Trazona. Over time, his public identity changed from “that guy from StarStruck” to born-again Christian husband, active in Victory Ortigas, and the self-described spiritual head of his home.

On paper, that sounds like a redemption arc. In practice, his recent statements reveal something else.

“GOD MADE HER RESIGN”: HOW CONTROL GETS SANITIZED AS OBEDIENCE

On February 13, 2026, Aragon appeared on DWAR Abante Radyo’s Jugo Live! to talk about why Izzy left SexBomb Girls and why her surprise appearance at their reunion concert caused tension.

In that interview, he said this about her exit from the group:

“Who made her resign from SexBomb? The Lord. When Izzy became a Christian, the Lord made her resign. The Lord told Izzy, ‘Come, follow me, I will make you fishers of men.’ Izzy obeyed.”

He criticized SexBomb’s name, costumes, and choreography, saying they were too revealing and could cause men to commit adultery in their hearts. He said he didn’t want his wife looking like she was “just in a towel” on posters for other men to see.

He then compared himself to the other SexBomb husbands, especially Bulacan Vice Governor Alex Castro (husband of Sunshine Garcia), saying some people called those men “good husbands” for allowing their wives to perform, but he found that standard shallow. He added that wives must submit to their husbands and that “every woman should be like that in our country and in other countries.”

Every woman. Every country. Submit.

Vice Ganda turned that into national satire, joking that Aragon had invented an “11th commandment”: resign from SexBomb. It was funny, but the logic underneath the joke is the same logic many women live under: your calling ends where your husband’s insecurity begins.

Izzy herself admitted she sought her husband’s “blessing” before showing up at the reunion concert and said he prayed first, weighed it, then allowed it as long as it was a one-time guest appearance. That is not two adults discerning together as equals. That is a woman asking permission for a piece of her own history.

From the outside, it looks less like “God called her out” and more like a man decided where his wife’s career should end, then put God’s signature at the bottom.

FROM SEXBOMB TO LGBTQ+: WHEN “CONVICTION” TURNS INTO CONDEMNATION

In a later interview with content creator Cris Rafael, Aragon widened his target. He went after K Brosas, Gloc-9, and Ian Veneracion by name, criticizing them for publicly supporting their LGBTQ+ children.

He pointed to Gloc-9 writing a song for his queer child and questioned whether this pleased God. He framed K Brosas and Ian Veneracion’s joy in their kids’ identities as something spiritually wrong, implying that “real” Christian parents wouldn’t affirm their LGBTQ+ children.

Then he turned to his own family. Speaking about Sofia (Andrei) Trazona, Izzy’s child from a previous relationship, who is now a trans woman, he said:

“God will throw you to hell if you continue to do homosexuality… I assure you that God will throw you to hell if you don’t stop, repent, and believe in the gospel.”

This is miles away from a private, gentle struggle within a family and much closer to a threat pronounced against a young woman in public.

SOFIA’S VOICE: “I PROTECTED YOU. I DIDN’T SAY YOU CHOKED ME.”

Sofia Trazona decided to respond.

In a video that spread quickly, she asked him why he had to ruin her in public and pointed out that she had once protected him by leaving out the worst details.

She alleged that he choked her, saying she “choked for how many seconds” before he stopped, and that in a previous interview she chose not to mention it to avoid damaging him. She said she didn’t report it at the time because she thought that kind of “discipline” was normal.

Aragon, in his own words, acknowledged that he had disciplined her in anger and that her main complaint about him was the intensity of his rage.

Sofia also shared that she no longer sees her mother and is afraid of how her mom will treat her now as a trans woman. She wrote that she does not want to go back to the “dark place” of their earlier conflict.

A child says she was choked. A child says she is scared to go home. And the man at the center of that is on air talking about hell and holiness.

WHEN OTHER CELEBRITIES STARTED PUSHING BACK

The responses from other public figures were sharp and necessary.

K Brosas said Aragon didn’t just share beliefs; he condemned parents like her just for loving and accepting their kids. She questioned his right to judge her parenting:

Did you ever help raise my child?
Did you ever give allowance or support?
Do you have any contribution to my household for you to judge how I parent?

Then she delivered the line that spread everywhere:

“At least my child is not a criminal, not a drug user. Our relationship is not perfect, but I can say I did something right.”

Her point was simple. If you’re going to weigh her parenting on a moral scale, you had better put your own past on the other side too.

She also defended the idea of personal faith that doesn’t become a weapon: as long as you’re not stepping on anyone, your relationship with God is personal and no one has the right to judge it.

Wilma Doesnt went straight for the hypocrisy. In her viral video, she mocked the idea that God talks only to Aragon, asking why he acts as if Jesus speaks only to him and not to others. She pointed out that when Aragon was still struggling with addiction, people did not hunt him down the way he is now publicly hunting LGBTQ+ people with his words.

Her message to him: you were shown compassion. Why can’t you show the same?

Gary Valenciano, who shares Aragon’s Christian faith, admitted he once behaved like Aragon—quick to say people were going to hell. But he said he later realized that even if truth hurts, you don’t have to make it hurt more. “It hurts enough already,” he said, emphasizing that sharing faith without love misrepresents the God you claim to follow.

Rica Peralejo, another outspoken Christian, added her own reflection without naming Alvin. She said she understands the desire to share God, but warned that when you do it in a way that sounds self-righteous, you should not expect the message to come through. She admitted she used to push into people’s faces how “different” and “pure” she was, and all it did was win applause from other believers while turning off the very people she hoped would change. For her, love has to come before judgment, or else you are not evangelizing; you are just performing for your own crowd.

Even IC Mendoza, a gay man of faith and longtime entertainment host who has been vocal about being both Christian and queer, publicly said he doesn’t believe you have to choose between your faith and your identity, and appealed to people to stop weaponizing Christianity.

Many of the people pushing back are Christians themselves. The conflict here is not Christian versus non-Christian. It is compassionate faith versus legalistic ego.

WHEN FAITH STOPS BEING A MIRROR AND BECOMES A WEAPON

There is a term many believers use for what we are seeing in Alvin’s case: weaponized Christianity. It happens when someone cares more about defending a doctrine than loving the human being in front of them. The focus moves from “How do I reflect God’s character?” to “How do I prove I’m on the right side?”

Some Christian writers describe legalism as “right behavior for the wrong reasons” and obedience separated from love. It looks strict. It sounds serious. But it forgets that the Bible’s commands were given inside a bigger story of mercy, not as a checklist for controlling everyone around you.

Under that lens, Alvin’s choices fall neatly into place. He quotes verses about lust and hell with confidence. He talks about modesty and headship like a man reading out of a rulebook. But when you look for grace, humility, and personal accountability, the room feels empty.

There is also a sociological layer here. Researchers have found that some conservative Christians experience LGBTQ+ rights as a kind of symbolic attack, a sign that their influence and values are losing ground. If you believe you are in a zero-sum fight where every gain in dignity for queer people is a loss for your faith community, then someone like Sofia is not just your stepdaughter. She becomes a battlefield.

Listening to Alvin talk about God’s will over Izzy’s body and Sofia’s soul, it is hard not to hear an old echo: the long history of men using “holiness” as grounds to punish women who step out of line. We may not be burning anyone at the stake today, but the impulse is familiar. A man claims to speak for God, and suddenly a woman’s career, clothing, or very identity becomes a sin that must be corrected, restrained, or sacrificed “for her own good.”

CALL IT LIKE IT IS: THE MISOGYNY HIDING BEHIND THEOLOGY

From a women’s rights lens, it’s impossible to ignore how gender sits at the center of all this.

Look at the pattern:

Izzy’s career in SexBomb ends. The narrative is “God called her out,” but in practice, the call lines up neatly with her husband’s discomfort with sexy costumes and public attention.

Izzy wants to perform again at the reunion concert. She needs her husband’s “blessing” and conditions.

He quotes “wives submit to your husbands” not just as a private belief but as a rule he wants applied to all women in all countries.

He goes on air to define what good husbands should allow or not allow their wives to do with their own bodies and careers.

Inside the church, there is already a debate on this.

Some argue that male-headship theology, often called complementarianism, can be lived kindly. Others point to its fruit: women systematically positioned under men, obedience preached more than mutuality, and an environment where abuse can hide behind Bible verses about “order” and “submission.”

At the core of abuse in religious homes is a moral lie: “God made you mine.” Once a husband starts to believe he owns his wife’s time, body, and calling, every decision becomes a test of loyalty instead of a shared choice. The more spiritual language you layer over that ownership, the harder it becomes for a woman to say no without feeling like she is rebelling against God himself.

Online discussions and comment threads have pointed out how classic this pattern is: isolating a woman from her work, framing control as protection, and using religion to sanctify it. One widely shared comment described how abusers cut their partners off from family and friends and then present themselves as the only safe person left.

Add to this the way some netizens describe the household dynamics: many point out that Izzy has had the more visible and consistent career over the years while Aragon positions himself as the unquestioned spiritual head. Whether or not every detail is verifiable, that tension—under-earning but over-controlling—is familiar in many homes.

As an advocate of women and women empowerment, this view is misogynistic, controlling, and a use of religion as an excuse to tighten a man’s grip on a woman’s life while pretending it’s God’s will.

THE PUSHBACK I EXPECT FROM RELIGIOUS READERS

I can already hear some of the religious pushback. “You’re attacking Christianity, not just Alvin.” “You’re misrepresenting headship and submission.” “He’s just speaking God’s truth about sin.”

That’s not what this is. I’m not arguing that every Christian husband is abusive, or that every complementarian marriage is doomed. I’m looking at the fruit of one man’s choices and asking an honest question: what kind of theology makes it easy for a husband to believe he owns his wife’s career and his stepdaughter’s soul?

Some will say, “Real headship is loving, real submission is voluntary.” I’ve read those arguments. I know abuse can exist in any system. But when your framework already places men over women by design, already tells wives to yield, and already tells husbands they “lead,” that framework becomes a very convenient hiding place for men who feel entitled to control. Good men may live it kindly. Bad men use the same verses as cover.

Others will say, “Warning about hell is love.” If you truly believe someone you love is in danger, you take them aside, you speak gently, you listen. You don’t go on air, name them, and announce their damnation to the country. Calling that “hard truth? Disguises what it really is: using someone’s soul as content.

This blog is not a verse-by-verse debate on sexuality or gender roles. It is a question of method and character. Whatever you believe about sin, the same Bible also says love is patient and kind, slow to anger, rich in mercy. If your theology makes you more excited about condemning than about listening, something is out of balance.

If your theology truly reflects the heart of God, it should make the powerful gentler, not harsher. It should move husbands toward protection, not control; toward repentance, not performance. Any system that consistently produces the opposite deserves a closer look, no matter how many verses it quotes.

THE HYPOCRISY QUESTION

Aragon has admitted to a history of drug use, something his wife Izzy has publicly defended him on, saying that what matters now is the change and healing he has undergone. He asks for understanding for his past. He wants his story of transformation respected.

At the same time, he publicly threatens his trans stepdaughter with hell, calls out other parents for affirming their queer kids, and preaches submission and strict sexual modesty while admitting to past violent anger towards a child in his home.

Wilma’s point was that people did not weaponize his worst season against him. K Brosas’ point was that if her child did not grow up to be a criminal or an addict, he has no right to act morally superior. Gary V’s point was that you can speak truth without stabbing people with it. Rica’s point was that if your “sharing” centers your own righteousness more than God’s love, you are just preaching to your own choir.

The hypocrisy is not that Aragon once struggled and now has convictions. It is that he enjoys grace for himself and seems unwilling to extend any to others. He is the recipient of understanding and the distributor of condemnation.

WHY SOMEONE LIKE ME HAS TO WRITE ABOUT SOMEONE LIKE HIM

I said earlier I’m hesitant to write this because I’m not a model husband. That still stands.

If this blog were written from the perspective of a perfect man, it would feel empty. The danger in Aragon’s story is not just “look at this one bad guy.” It is “look at how easy it is for any of us to confuse our fear with God’s will.”

I see the temptation in myself:

To want my comfort more than my partner’s freedom

To hide my insecurity behind religion, tradition, or “being a man”

To measure my morality against someone “worse” instead of facing my own record

A man who uses religion to control his wife’s body, threaten his stepdaughter’s soul, and shame other parents for loving their children is not showing us what God looks like. He is showing us what patriarchy looks like when it learns a few Bible verses.

And if we keep letting that pass—as content, as “opinion,” as “just his faith”—we’re not just failing Izzy, Sofia, and every woman watching. We’re failing the men we could become if we chose humility over control.

But the question is still burning: how many homes in this country are living out their own version of this story, without the cameras, without the celebrity names, without anyone to push back on their behalf?

That’s the part I can’t shrug off.

SOURCES:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1j_JR7lXT7dVLqi8tHetvYtXwEyR9VBPgXH1GNI7VOe0/edit?usp=sharing